P- I only read your most recent posts (I will read all later) and I have a few similarities to your sitch in that my WAW who moved out 6 months ago and I see each other just about every day and spend time as a family w/ our 3 boys. We also have been communicating much better and our friendship has improved or come back.
We have not had a r talk in months as I will not bring it up and she has not as of yet.
My .02 is to let her take the lead on this. From your posts it seems that your w adores you and is willing to move forward in some fashion which is great. Keep being the best you you can be and try to detach from her actions and talks about the D as much as possible. You really can't control the sitch if thats the route she wishes to take and I think in the long run she will appreciate you giving her space and room to make her decisions.
With that being said I think it would be wise to have a DB coach weigh in to give you some more insight. Perhaps their will be a tactful way to discuss ways in which you can start over w/o an official D.
I am assuming your W knows where you stand in that you want to be with her so definitely no need to restate and def no begging, pleading, etc..Maybe as she pursues this option further she will see that it may not be the best route.
Best of luck and I will re-read your sitch to see if I can offer any further personal insight.
