I hear you about noticing the small steps. I'm choosing to take the fact that yesterday's discussion with my wife didnt have any real ARGUING or more notably 'hostile bait' - even though it WAS about a divorce settlement - as a good step.
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12