Need HOPE- part II

[PERSEVERANCE]

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Really need some opinions. Yesterday- W asked for us to go out & grab a coffee and talk about R ( she brought it up).Well, it is a bit promising.I'm still unsure how it will all go... I'll just try to focus & lower my expectations. Trying to have zero expectations- but it is so hard.
W said that she can really see improvements & effort on my part. She is still seeing her C, I see mine, but I havent asked her to see a MC again ( she refused a few weeks ago)
Here it is..... W said that she hasn't given up hope for reconciling, but she wants to ceremonially, legally,psychologically end the old R before considering moving forward with a new, better R. She needs to kill off the old R which means a D. Absolutely no promises that we WILL reconcile, but she said that she needs to do this... mentally, it means a fresh start for us. I can really see that she is making an effort to get closer to me. She admitted that we have been more honest and communicating better in the last few weeks than we have in years. Our conversations more relaxed,and are longer and more frequent. She even suggested getting the D & not telling people. The D would allow a clean break if I back-slide & become Jekyl & Hyde again ( won't happen -I promise). She recently told a friend that there really isn't anyone out there like me...that if she was dating, she would have a very hard time finding someone as intimate, caring & dedicated.( something like that).
*How should I move forward? I'll agree to a fair D without a fight. It will be basic- she isn't trying to take a ton of assetts etc. *Should I be more insistent that we see a MC... perhaps seeing our Uncle (a great C. & catholic priest that married us & the kid's Godfather. * Am I missing anything? What options do I really have... Is this an olive branch disguised as poison ivy? This is a strange bit of DB'ing. Is this unique? She still has a "wall" up...her way of protecting herself emotionally...but I can see it lowering by microscopic increments. Still- no plans for her to move back home. Starting from scratch - friends first. Probably best, why rush to rebuild the foundation of what could possibly be a great, new R...a sequel to our old one. It is so strange trying to embrace the idea of D though.