Mach1 you are absolutely right, I do have to stop worrying about what she does or thinks, I have to stop mindreading and assuming.
I don't want to be "right" here, I just want you to see that YOU have this huge opportunity in front of you, and you are choosing to waste that time worrying over things that you have no control over.
Let's go back to that list that you made....
All of your goals included in that list....are fantastic. Yet you limited yourself by just practicing them within the confines of your marriage.
Those things are for YOU...
To use in your daily life too....
You take those things, and you practice them...daily. You change yourself with daily interactions with real people , until the thoughts become habits in your life.
In the end, you won't only not think about having to do them, they will have become an integrated part of your life. They become your actions, your persona, your character,your core value.
I am going to challenge you, to post something daily , that you did from your list, outside of your marriage. Something that YOU did, for another person, other than your spouse.
Sound easy ?
We will see....
I would also like to see your goals for yourself, things that light that spark within yourself...outside of your marriage.
CO....DB or don't DB....but please don't halfway do this.
You won't regret doing this, that , I can promise you.
