This sort of reminds me of my h, and things that went on in our relationship before bomb drop.
I've always been ultra available. He'd call, he'd email, he'd text and I'd answer. Even if it were things that could have been discussed later on. He pressed for a response, and if I didn't give one, then I'd have to explain myself.
After bomb drop however, I stopped being that available. And he didn't like that, even though he was threatening to leave me. I stopped answering the emails during the day... and I'd wait till he got home and he'd say "Didn't you get my messages?" and I'd say I did... but I thought we'd talk about them when you got in. I got busy.
It was when I started to pull back like this, it made him come toward me to try and understand what had changed. It made him uncomfortable and curious.
Another good thing about this was, it helped us talk more in the evening face to face...
