I have ordered DB and am waiting for it to be shipped. I have pieced a lot of it together through the boards and the blog.

I might add though I hate him right now for ripping my heart out I still love him and want to try and work this out. I don't even really care what has happened with this girl. I think what hurts the most is that he isn't being honest about something and never once gave us a try. He said something didn't feel right and turned off - can people actually do that - or is it something else?

How long do I wait?

I hate the people in the community (which I introduced him to) are saying they hear that its over. I feel like I'm either living in denial and still have hope or that our definition of ending a marriage is very different...

Does he think by saying "I guess we are done" that our marriage is over - if so hes acting like a 15 year old - which he has been through all of this. My idea of starting to be over is putting the wheels in motion to actually seperate your lives - am i wrong? Half of his clothes are still here at the house that we own together and that he still pays for ??

I could really use some help on this....anyone??