Got it. When we went, my H also said it was just for us to be able to communicate better and keep the atmosphere at home livable. More like survival. For us, my H had decided at that point that although he felt hopeless about love ever being in our M, we were going to stay together for our D.
My take there: If it makes him happy to use that as an excuse, then OK, so be it.
I don't think the mentor couples would really divulge anything because part of Retrouvaille is not knowing whats next. All they would assure you is that there is no sharing. I could assure you that they will not ram anuything down your throat.
There were some topics that my H was not ready to discuss and he simply did not participate, and that was OK with me. In the end, I think it still made himself face his own issues.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
