Mach1. I appreciate your reply, thank you. Have I already walked this road? Obviously, I did. Not to make excuses, but it's no secret around here that this stuff can be an emotional roller coaster. So, perhaps, I got caught up in this tangled web once again. My bad. The first time I inquired, we were still living under the same roof. This time, we're living apart. Furthermore, shame on me for believing she really missed me & staying somewhere else other than where she really was.
I am not asking for you or anyone else to make the decision for me. I UNDERSTAND it is MY decision to make. While no two situations are identical, some have similarities. I am seeking the experience of those with similar situations - what worked/what didn't - combine the responses and formulate my own strategy as how I see it to work most effectively for my situation.
I love her dearly. So, it offends me that this happened in the first place. I would do whatever it takes to gain her back. On the other hand, I wonder if jumping through all these hoops (despite the purpose to improve myself and well-being) is really going to win her back. That is the objective, afterall. The other thing I'm beginning to question, despite having been a strong believer in the sanctity of marriage, why do all of us (or, at the minimum, me) stick around after the spouse has strayed?
Guess I'm really miffed at myself for being fooled yet again
