While I remember you, it has been a while and I honestly don't remember the details of your sitch.
So I am going to do this blindly, because TBH, I don't have the time to go back through your threads right now...
First, congrats on the grand baby. I know that is exciting.
Now, as for X, I don't think I would worry too much about whether she is peeking out of the tunnel or not.
Personally, at this point, I would look at this as what it is...
Two proud parents/grandparents sharing something special.
If something were to come of that, then it does.
If it doesn't, it doesn't...
You have been doing very well. Would you even be interested in a R with your X at this point?
If your answer is yes, then keep your eyes and ears open for the MLC garbage so that you will be able to tell what is going on...
Also keep in mind that it would be a new relationship.
You two have been apart for a while now. You are different people. Both of you. It really would be the start of something new, even though it is with someone familiar.
If your answer is no, then just keep on, maybe just forming a friendship at her direction.
Either way, it sounds like your overall relationship could possibly be improving which is a good thing in terms of the "family" unit.
My STBX, while still in MLC land, has made efforts to be my friend. He has made efforts to be supportive when I have needed it, to talk to me and even confide in me. To the extent that he has even said we will always be family even though we are not going to be a couple. In many ways, he is right. We share a child. We will share grandchildren (I hope). We have neices and nephews and cousins that were family for a long long time. Just because our feelings for each other changed, it doesn't mean that we still don't care about the extended families. Those relationships will benefit from the two of us being able to genuinely get along.
Keep posting, others should be along eventually...chickens...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
