I'm not sure what to do here. I don't think I can ever accept the idea of him dating her. I can't be around to watch this happen. It was hard enough to hear him say that he's ready to start dating... but now to know that it might be *her*. I will never get him back if they start down that path... she is everything that I wasn't in our M.... and the 'old me' is what he's walking away from.
Purg... that's your fear talking. Does this person have good qualities and traits? Sure. But I promise she has lots of flaws too... we all do. How did she become single? How does she have interest in a married man? There are red flags there that say she has issues... I'm not saying they make her a bad person, but they immediately make me question whether she would make a good match.
Don't give in to the despair and the fear. We make things much worse in our head then they ever typically are in reality.
As far as dating... you can't control whether he does or doesn't. And right now the grass is green and verdant on the other side of the fence... maybe having him go walk around on that grass for a while will let him see it's not all it's cracked up to be.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD