You bring up a good point. I have often wondered if she truly wants to hear all that I have to say, or if she just wants me to validate her leaving by me documenting where I found my errors to be. This was literally introduced like this (from another thread - I am paraphrasing):
W: I am worried that your parents will say bad things about me in front of S.
Me: I know you feel that way, but please know that I sat them both down individually and let them know what MY role was in our situation and how my actions got us to this point.
W: I would like to hear that.
Me: I would like to tell you. There are a lot of things that I would like to share with you that I have learned about myself over the last four months.
Later discussion in text:
Me: You said you wanted to hear what I thought my contributions were and what I have learned.
W: Just send me an e-mail or write it in a letter.
I don't think I am forcing the discussion, but if someone thinkgs I am let me know! I just feel that based on those brief remarks and where we are right now, it is time (almost time) for me to open up a bit. I have been VERY closed about my feelings in all of this for a long time. Hell, EVERYONE on this board knows more about my mindset right now than my W. Still, to your point Accuray, I don't know if she is ready to accept this message.
I need to find a way to balance letting it not be dependent upon the reader and 25's suggestion of expressing regret/remorse over specific incidents or behaviors that I exhibited over time.
Again, I am just fearful that she will just say "Bullsh*t!" - and write the whole message off as too little too late.
