"I wasn't assuming W couldn't handle it... the fact is she had not handled it as she had agreed to do."
You have no idea what would have happened if you hadn't intervened. My guess is W would have managed to make S lunch, and might have helped him catch up with homework tonight. Who knows?
What is clear is that things did not go as YOU would have wanted them too, so you did your best to fix things to make them go that way. W is an adult with 3 kids. She would have managed.
Try leaving the house before the kids are up to help you control yourself Mr. Fixit ;-)
Why is your W sick all the time, BTW?
And, FWIW, I seriously doubt that you'd be happy if a really intrusive person who was judging you, criticizing you, fixing stuff behind you for weeks on end found yet another way to interfere in your day, show how you are coming up short, make things go their way. Don't think you'd like it a bit, really.
