DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 2)

[purgatory]

You continue to be a great source of inspiration! Whenever I feel like nothing I do is working to help me, reading your posts are a great reminder that it *does* take a long time, but things can have a positive outcome

This stuck with me:
"They were extremely worried, and heartbroken over this. They saw what was going on, on the surface due to the bomb and reacted as parents will. They wanted to protect me from what they saw and wanted their grandsons protected from it too."

My parents have reacted similarly. They keep saying they don't hate or blame H, but that they want to make sure the boys and I are protected/taken care of. I have asked my parents to reach out to H so that he knows he isn't the 'bad guy'... it hasn't worked. H has told me that he feels that my side of the family hates him and this feeling comes from the lack of their interactions with him. I've tried to reassure him that I have never spoken bad about him to anyone, in fact I convey that most of the blame is on me. H doesn't believe me. Any suggestions on how to get him to see that I'm not spewing obscenities about him?? (sorry, didn't mean to hijack, but you seemed to have success with creating peace amongst the families)