It took me along time to even start to feel "normal" again.
Detaching is the quickest way that I know of to stop the turmoil.
Having said that, detaching takes time, and for me going dim really helped the process. Because I have D's that was a struggle in itself sometimes. There were days/weeks/months where I fought for every step.
I would tell you that if you've taken the high road and supported her, you were not played. What you did came from the heart. Even if that was her intent, which I truly doubt,(afterall 22 years or even 17 to implement the evil plan, is kinda long don't you think?), you can take pride in the kind of man you are.
