Well I haven’t posted for a while and the last time I said anything about my thoughts Jack stickied my post. Well I guess I want to just have a regular thread so I can give my thoughts and maybe a little of your prospective.
Update:
I am officially a Grandpa and my D18 and Grandbaby are home and healthy thank goodness. I haven’t broken a hip yet and I just ordered a case each of Metamucil and Ensure to help cope with my new Grand parenting duties. Becoming a grandfather brought out several emotions from my past when I became a father. Actually it kind of made me feel the exact same way. I don’t really know how to explain how it felt, I know I liked the feeling. I might be a little biased but that baby is beautiful.
A few days before Christmas I received an e-mail from my Ex and this is what it said. D12 was telling me that you're going to your sisters for Chirstmas Eve. I was hoping to let the kids open their gifts, maybe have a meal together. D12 asked me to cook a ham. Can I plan on seeing them for Christmas Day? If you have another suggestion, feel free to share. If D18 doesn't want to take Grand D out, I can bring her gifts to her at your house. The weather is supposed to get nasty soon. On second thought, I'll just bring their gifts over on Christmas to your house. Sometime mid-morning. Is that ok? I'm sure other relatives may want to see them as well.
My Reply: That will be fine. D12 asked me to make a ham also and that was my plan.
I didn’t read anything into the e-mail other than she kind of invited herself over for Christmas. I did find the e-mail written much different than she normally writes.
Our Christmas was good and I made it the best that I could for my girls. The girls and I made a nice Christmas meal on Christmas eve for my sister and her family and they all came to my house and we enjoyed the day. My D12 was up at 5:30 Christmas morning and I was tired and told her we needed to wait until the baby woke up before we could have Christmas. She was a little disappointed and crawled in bed with me and fell back asleep. She heard the baby cry about 7:00 and bolted out of bed I was already up and loved the excitement. My ex hasn’t been around our Grand D much because the baby lives in my house and I think she is kind of still fighting the thought of being a Grandparent. The ex came over and had her Christmas with the girls. Before my D18 and her BF had to go over to his parents house, my ex and I gave the Grand D a bath. It was kind of strange that the ex seems to have forgotten how to give a baby a bath and I have done this several times with my D18 just trying to teach her the proper way to give the baby a bath. About an hour after my ex left my house my exMIL called me and was just excited about her daughter and I giving the baby a bath. She sounded as if it was the highlight of her and my ex’s day. I found that rather interesting that the ex even told her mom. I know my ex’s family doesn’t like that we are divorced and they don’t like the things that have happened. They have supported me and been very generous towards me through the divorce. I am very thankful, they could have just as easily kicked me to the curb like I see in so many scenario’s on these boards.
A week ago I went to a basket ball game my D12 was cheering at and as I walked in I seen my ex and she motioned me over to sit by her. I have been to several games and she has never really acted like I had existed before. I sat by her and we talked about the girls and some troubles we are both having with D18’s boyfriend which is another drama fest.
Well the day before yesterday my exFIL called me and made it a point to let me know that my ex has broken off her relationship with OM. I don’t want to read anything into this and I have heard this before and I just keep on keeping on with my life.
Over the last few days I have been getting several e-mails, texts, and phone calls. Yesterday was two calls that kind of made my ear hurt from being on the phone so long.
I found it interesting when she asked what I was doing last night and I told her that I had just finished cooking fajita’s and Spanish rice she seemed very jealous. She even suggested that she had some items that would go great with a meal like that next time.
I don’t really have any expectations, I just know that this has been the most my ex has talked to me in about a year. I will say that I like the non spewing version of my ex better.
These are my questions: Is this behavior odd? Is this maybe a start of peeking out of the tunnel? I know I am not the sharpest when it comes to understanding a lot of these things and obviously the things I have learned from others on this board have opened my eyes. Thanks for your time.
Me 44 W 38 M 18 D 18 D 13 Bomb 10/21/2010 Divorced 7/19/2011 Just getting to the 7th inning!
