Rick,
If I can add my two cents to grumpy. Grumpy, it has taken me about 6 months to get to the point where I am, accepting of the sitch, sad, but detaching, with some slight backslides. Depression started to subside around 6 mos after the bomb, but all sitchs are different. Follow ricks advice and read, read, read other posts and threads, good luck!

m 54
XW 48
m 12
t 14
bomb 6-11
s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!