I agree with KML on all counts. I also think that this is the final straw in my mind.
Unless and until she gets serious help, which I do NOT expect her to get until IF AND WHEN the affair burns out and even then, I doubt it...
she's a BAD bet for you.
She has the sensitivity of a rock, and will careen around banging into your NORMAL male ego the rest of your life if you let her AND
she's a succubus. I assume she's great looking and or very rich b/c she has treated you terribly, but she doesn't like that there is ANY price to pay for that, socially or like losing the "friendship" with their exes. First she wants you to hurry up and sign the papers and then she whines that you are too upbeat.
Not saying you were perfect-yeah we know BUT now you are a better catch. You have changed; you have grown, and she has NOT. Clearly.
She ended it and claimed to have good reasons..okay, maybe so.
Then Now what's new? She wants to keep torturing you? Keeping you in her back pocket and making sure you do NOT date OWs or appear too happy b.c then maybe SHE didn't make a good trade...oops....Don't let her keep you stuck anymore.
Finally, a shrink once told me that 90% of women who take ADs have critical spouses...I have wondered for awhile what role SHE played in your depression.
Sure, I know, YOU are responsible for your happiness but I sure do wonder how she was playing you b/c I don't think you see the manipulations as clearly as some of us are...so maybe we'll never know what role she played but she won't have one anymore...
Hey West, There are many fun sexy women out there who are smart and LOVING and
Not crazy, selfish or cruel. I promise you there are so many. Your ex has blown it.
If she falls apart on you, and if you begin to cave (hope you won't)
tell her to call you when she's done with OM AND
has seen a shrink to get help with her massive confusion and crazy
"careening" into egos and hurting you, and then you'll see where YOU are, if and when that ever happens. Otherwise, what's to talk about? His penis? [u] Oh yeah that's super fun[/u]
If you stay on the road you have chosen, you'll be fine and happy soon enough. Her happiness never was nor is it now, YOUR responsibility.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
