yeah you did the right thing. She's in another world or solar system and all planets revolve around her. She wanted YOU to comfort HER for her adultery b/c it bugs her that she "met OM the way she did" what a bunch of parsing...uyou mean when you cheated on me? IS that what you mean about how you two "met" and how you "regret THE WAY YOU MET"??? NOT that she broke her vows or crushed you but that it does not LOOK GOOD on her dating resume... I don't care what happened to her in the past.
She's very self centered and clueless AND btw, she has NOT grown an inch emotionally. Notice that It's all about how SHE hurts now b/c she cheated on you and somehow
it's all about her, again...first you neglected her and so she cheated of course, and now YOU are withdrawing b/c
of the affair AND SOME INEXCUSABLE COMMENTARY FROM HER RECENTLY....
which was clueless at best - and cruel at worst. I'd have said something abnout that and said either the polite way-
"Wow we sure don't see that event the same way at all, but that's okay b/c we don't have to agree on the past and you won't have to be unhappy anymore"
or just "Gee I sure don't see it that way AT ALL, but I'm sorry if you were hurt" and end the topic. Stand your ground that SHE's way off base there...
God forbid she OWN the mistake.
It's all in code and riddles so she wants YOU to stick your neck out and take all the risk to chase her some more but then what? She's with him! She regrets HOW they met, NOT that they are together NOW, correct? Am I missing something?
Okay so is it possible she wants you to sweep her off her feet and win her back?
it is possible. But she sounds like she is "with" OM...
and even IF she IS wanting you to come in and take her back--or win her back with work on YOUR end (which is all I heard...NOTHING on her end of significance to work on or change or promise, and that's a bad bad sign)
Do you think this woman as she is, who shows no growth or insight into HER behavior in a way that indicates changing it anyhow...
is a good investment for your heart?
Like I said, Let HER go patch herself up and figure what she wants out and THEN SHE can come to you and say why she misses you and what she needs or wants from you
and YOU can choose what's right for YOU.
Right now she's only going to obstruct your growth and stop you from enjoying meeting new people and you MUST meet some new women to get your confidence and mojo back...
Yes I'm saying go get your swagger on and gain some experience so YOU'LL know when you are treated right...b/c she treated you horribly
and still won't admit it. And sometimes you dont' see it yourself.
Your marital mistakes were what again? IF I recall - you got complacent and depressed and I'm SURE that was a big drag...you were underemployed too?
Okay so she stuck by you...or not? She didn't....she left you b/c you were too much work? Maybe so but she did DO THAT...and you slogged through some crap and you are now better, thank God. But see
After She left you and you told her how YOU feel, she filed for divorce and THEN let you in on way too much information...and now it seems to me, that SHE regrets that she lost ANYTHING IN HER "MARITAL TRANSACTION"
b/c when you trade one guy in for another, you DO lose the guy you traded in.
You do NOT get to keep one in reserve or pout to them about what it cost HER to make "one mistake".... God she's got the selfishiness of an elementary school brat but that offends me b/c my girls NEVER acted like this.
So YES you did the right thing and if anything you were too polite about it. I'd want to express SOME shock at the gall of a woman who cheats on you when you were already down in the dumps, and then pouts that you won't be her bff anymore...Good God...
sorry west, geez
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
