25yearsmlc message to peeps

[kolja]

"b/c at age 90, my 'bliss' will be knowing I did right by my children and marriage."

I love this line. We don't have children, but still I think it captures, in a way I couldn't figure out the words for, why I didn't just roll over and say "well, OK, I guess that's that then" when my wife said she wanted a divorce. The best I could come up with for searching for, finding, and jumping into things like Divorce Busting was "I want to be able to look at myself and know I did everything I could." But to me, that carries an implicit assumption that nothing will save the marriage and is subliminally negative - and I never felt 100% comfortable with it. Of course, all of us in my position (new to the 'scene') have to be intellectually aware of the possibility that we may not be able to salvage the marriage - but your turn of phrase, in it's open-endedness, doesn't carry the same subliminal negativity for me. In its open-endedness, it's more simple - and more profound.