WHG: Chasing that rabbit with the pocketwatch

[workinghardguy]

Be careful though not to confuse this for a softening of your W's heart.

It's easy to fall into this trap isn't it? It's both a good thing and sad that we've been more of a family in the past four days than we have in the previous four months. It's good because it feels good to have everyone together and the stress somewhat gone, or at least greatly dialed down. I also can show SD/SS a level of affection that was tough before. Not that I didn't want to, but when I did W got angry as I think she thought I was trying to manipulate her via the kids. Plus I would start to break down and lose it when I was affectionate with them. So it was easier to just moderate that. But now I am openly affectionate with them much more. Everyone knows what's up so now let her get angry... which she hasn't.

One big change I have noticed is my W's willingness to be at the house. Almost every night she's been gone... to a friend's house, the bar, etc... But tonight makes the third night in a row that she's been home. Granted I've had GAL forcing her to be home, but in the past she'd be out the door minutes after I get home. I don't take this to mean she wants to be around me or is any softening of her heart. I only see it as she feels more comfortable with the separation and her situation so doesn't feel the need to "flee" the house and get space.

If nothing else I am happy because it means she's here more for the kids, and that's been one of their chief complaints and sources of pain lately.