Well Shaky, from what I know, and the way my IC explained it to me was my W left me finally because she no longer had any feelings left and the only way she can get over her hurt is through a D.
That is why it hurts me so much when my W continuously says she "feels empty" and is "past the point of no return".
It dims my hope that she will ever want to come back, even though she knows I have changed, and things can be better.
She told me a few times she can forgive me, but not forget things that happened, and we could never start fresh.
Men supposedly leave before they reach this point. Which is probably true.
I know and admitted to my W that I had thoughts that we should have separated or D. I even had brief thoughts of looking for another woman.
Those thoughts weren't too long ago, then she dropped the bomb on me. After that I realized how much I loved her and any thought of wanting a D or OW were out of sight.
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped
