Thanks, labug. I read that list everyday and edit it as needed, and it is free for all to use and share.
As I said in the long post, hurts me that I didn't know sooner what she was feeling, because she knows I get it now.
She says it is too late, she is beyond the point of no return and feels empty.
What exactly can I do about this? Going dark doesn't seem to be the answer. People say detach, I feel I AM detached as much detached as I am going to get.
This morning we talked more of the usual, no real relationship stuff. I did mention how much I like to talk to her in the morning before work.
I said that was one thing that was great about when I worked second shift, we could talk in the morning before I went to work, and she said when I came home if I was stressed I slept it off. I said yeah and you used to wake me up every morning [with sex]. She laughed and said she couldn't help it.
She brought up future arraignments for S (daycare), so she wouldn't have to get up so early. I told her what we have right now is working out ok, so we have time to figure something out.
All in all a decent conversation, I was worried what she would say after yesterday.
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped