My advice: Just take it as part of your journey. Think of it this way: you have nothing to lose. It can't make things worse, there's a chance it will be better. I was so anxious when we were going, but it turned out to be a miracle for us.
You will not be talking to anybody about your situation. THERE IS NO SHARING!
There is no brainwashing either! Let your husband know about this, as shared by someone who has gone through it.
It is all about facing what you really feel. Retrouvaille means discovery.....
Just trust the process.
My advice: On your way there, do not talk about emotional things, about your R, or about your son, especially if it will seem like you are guilting him about his role (or lack of it) as a dad. It will close off his mind to whatever is going to happen in Retrouvaille. The least you will need in order to gain something from it is an open mind.
I will be praying for you. Good luck, and trust the Lord.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
