- part of what my W is experiencing is a huge identity crisis, and major issues of self-worth, self-image, etc. She has spent her entire life bottling up things due to fear, and then trying to brainwash herself that what she is afraid to do is something she really didn't want anyway. So, over a lifetime she became completely unsure as how to express her true self, and not knowing that she deserves to be fulfilled.
So, she has been slowly starting to develop her photography abilities. I bought her a laptop that could handle the photoshop applications and some art books to complement her project. This may not sound like much, but she signed up for a photo course at the museum where we live. This is a big step for her because in the past she would have talked herself out of it, would have told herself she didn't deserve it, and she was talking herself out of it to me, and I just let her get it all out, then simply said that she deserves this. She did sign up! And I could see how happy she was this morning when she woke up. Step by step she's figuring things out.
The other thing I think is nice is that I found out that I have Monday off for MLK Day. I emailed her with this newfound day off. She emailed back saying that she has some time owed to her and she will take the day off too.
That never would have happened from bomb day up until this past month.
Step by step here for all of us, but at least the steps are going in the right direction.
