Isn't it nice when our WAS has all these expectations that they think they can receive?
I agree that your H is making unreasonable expectations of you and seems to misinterpret the idea of a S. Yes, ideally we would all like to see our kids every day, but the only reasonable way to do that is to stay together. And since he's choosing against it, he needs to learn about the consequences of his choice.
Do you feel taken advantage of? If I were you, I would. He is expecting you to be accomodating in every aspect. He's using your house and your time. He is expecting you to make sacrifices when he is not. Yes, he wants to have his cake and eat it too. As hard as it is, you need to set boundaries and learn to say 'no' when it's inconvenient for you. I'd say even make up a few excuses even if it were ok with you. Let him know when things are not ok with you. It seems like he's treating you like a doormat. What else do you do for him? Do you cook for him? Do you do his laundry?
