LAbug said - I have made great strides and know that I would not be as far along if H had not dropped the bomb.
Rick said - this nis all so bizarre at times. We needed the bomb or something big enough as a catalyst to allow us to break our lifelong habits that were damaging. So we do that, all the while terrified that we will be losing our S and fam. Then we face the ugly truth, have the guts to do something about it, reach a place where we can survive and even live a fulfilled life emotionally with or without our S, and then they start reaching back. It's all so weird to me. A few months ago I hung on her every word, and gesture no matter how small; and could not even imagine we could get better. Only when I felt I could move on from her then it started to improve. Still don't know where this will lead though.
