Selfishly, I think I deserve a momentary feeling that I will date again and someone cares about me. The past 6 months have been hell.
You totally DO deserve that. Really, at this point, you would be completely justified if you wanted to chuck him and take him to the cleaners in divorce court.
I understand why you haven't - trying to save our marriages for the sake of the kids, and for the sake of the guy our H's used to be, is a powerful force. And your H, despite being such a fantastic jerk, is certainly still on the fence.
Nonetheless, only you can decide when enough is enough.
Meanwhile, if this guy you met is actually a good guy, he'll be content to just be friends until you both work through your marital issues.
Nice to know, though, that there are other fish in the sea, huh?
