Actually - that might have been one of the better things that occurred.
You got some nice male attention that helped you feel that you are worth more than what your H is giving you right now.
Your H had to confront the reality that if he doesn't want you, some other man will - and predictably, his jealousy kicked in big time.
Now - this IS why I usually suggest just giving the IMPRESSION that you MIGHT be going out, rather than living the reality - so that you can get the jealousy reaction but with complete innocent deniability on your part.
And I don't think I would have admitted to the kissing - it would have been fine to say you went out with a male friend who is also going through a divorce, to cry on each other's shoulders.
But it's done - and your H doesn't sound like he liked the dose of reality he got. And I liked your response that if he put the energy into YOU that he's put into the OW< things would be different.
Let's face it - he's an idiot. He wants to have his affair, have his "fun separation", and then just come back to the marriage like nothing ever happened. Wonder what OW would think if she heard that nonsense.
