Well, he doesn't think our son will talk to him like he does with me. He's placing that on the stereotypical father/child and mother/child relationship, and he just has the assumption that kids don't open up to their dads like they do moms. Which in my case isn't true, I've always been much closer with my dad. I have told him several times, that he should try and initiate a conversation with him, talk to him about his feelings, and just a little digging will help open his eyes up to why the little guy is acting the way he his, and not wanting to go out and play, and why at dads house he just wants to lay about and do nothing but cry or sleep. Of course he places blame on me for it, since I was the waw, and he knows our son talks to me all the time about feelins, and his needs, and I'm always the one he comes to with questions or if he needs reassurance because I've always made myself available for him. So my husband just waits until I tell him about weird behaviour or things that were said that were a bit disturbing. But I always encourage him to talk to his son, and I also try to encourage my son to open up to him, but he says he's scared to. But we have a nice 4 hour drive on Friday, so hopefully we can have a talk about things then without his anger flaring up or me in tears. My husband has already said that he'd walk out of the session if they didn't listen, then I asked him, "listen to what?" Which he replied, I don't know, but from the phone call I got from the Retrouvaille lady, it sounded like a weekend of cult brain washing. I've talked to him several times about what goes on, and that we don't have to share our story with anyone unless we want to, and have given him countless links on the internet for him to read in his own time, just so he would know what to expect. I did talk to his mom yesterday, and she said that both her and his grandmother have both told them they aren't pleased with him right now, and that he's been making a lot of bad choices. But that he also told them he would be going into the program with an open mind to either outcome, but then of course he tells me he's not. She did tell me not to worry about it so much, because his temper is well known in his family, and I know we've both hit sore spots with each other. I just need a magic 8 ball... Unfortunately as Friday comes closer, the more anxious I get, and it's really hard to not just break down in tears at work every day.
