I rarely say stuff like that^^^^ but this is crazy. No kids, no wedding license and NO RING and no time invested...AND
no kindness!!! barely contact...
He said he wants you out...what are you waiting for, eviction papers? He'll get to that when he returns and all his things are in one piece.
One11- like I said, IF there is a chance to turn this around it'll be by you getting back the spine you had before assuming you did have one. But seriously, did you? I don't mean to be mean...
but was the dating relationship really so deep? Did he know he was getting deployed and needed a warm cushion at home??
Sorry but I have served myself, am married to an officer and have 5 brothers, 4 of whom have served...I have seen many if not MOST MEN keep their vows.
But there are some who make up for the rest
and he made NO VOWS to you that he feels obligated to keep now.
YOU are both free to date. I'd at least act as if I was but not to tell HIM...
what are you doing TO GAL??
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We had a short discussion late on Sunday. I am staying in the house until May 1st. It is what is best FOR ME. I don't drive, so I can't even get the dog to a kennel, besides, I love that dog and don't want to do that to her.
I am moving into the lower level bedroom.
I am going on 'our' wedding trip (its non refundable/transferable/exchangable and it's costing me 5 Grands, so I am going for sure! lol) then I will move out when I am back from the trip.
You're right about not being engaged anymore, and you're right about dating.
FWIW: He is a lifer, and always will be. He has a very good "day job" here back home. And he will never date military again. He prefers civilians. I am the best of both worlds as I work for the military in a civilian capacity loL!
What am I doing to GAL? Nothing crazy. I am getting older. My idea of a good time is renting a movie and cooking a pot roast. I'm not being anything different because I never didn't have my own life and stuff to do. I take care of a house, animals, have a great job, work out every day, do home renos on the weekends, cook like a master-chef! lol! That's good enough for me.
And the 'did I ever have a spine'? question.. valid! I do, I am one of the most fiesty and strong women I know. I don't get 'taken' very easily and I've been independant all my adult life. This whole thing has knocked me on my ass!! My spine disappeared and I didn't recognize myself for a while. I was severely depressed, couldn't get out of bed, contemplated suicide and I think... had a nervous breakdown.
I think this one hit me so hard because this is the FIRST man I ever wanted to marry,I was 'Miss Independant' and never really saw myself marrying anyone before. And the first man I ever want to have a child with. Seriously! That is what made me believe that the relationship was different than the rest I've had (and I've had some pretty serious ones, one lasted 6 years).
But once I got word that I have the time I need to move on financially... as soon as I got that news... something inside me clicked! Oh... THERES my backbone!!!!
