Oh and I should add... *IF* I CAN live with him until May. It may be too difficult. He would also have to agree that we are not allowed to bring people home. This OW and him would most likely continue their affair as she lives in our hometown too. He may not be willing to do that.
I just don't think that there is any way I could stay in the house if he was bringing her, or other women over.
I just thought that living together for a bit when he gets home and gets to decompress,.... maybe things will change?? Maybe his feelings will change?
make plans to move ASAP and make arrangements for his dog if you can...if you cannot, find a temporary home for him. Once the engagement got called off and he blew you off then you owed him nothing...
tell him and move on but do it in a polite upbeat way like you "get" that he's chosen someone else...and YOU have moved on too. NO drama, no big deal, and NO NEEDINESS FROM YOU....no clinging.
he's been a flirty cheater from the get go and you've put up with too much and then he decided a ring would shut you up but that was too much b/c you still expected things from him, like contact and you do sound a tad clingy and needy.
I doubt he wonders what YOU are doing when he's on skype..
have some mystery and keep your dignity. he's the 40 y/o with nothing but a divorce to show for himself. And he'll have to find work when he returns...and that's not easy these days.
unless he's a lifer in which case he may prefer another soldier as a wife.
you Do realize you are better off finding out NOW than later when you have two little ones and no job experience...right?
and IF IF IF there's a chance this serial philanderer who can't be even be true to a woman he just fell in love with CAN be monogamous
it's only for a woman who sets AND ENFORCES CLEAR BOUNDARIES
no snooping games or "Gotcha" moments anymore.
Be done with him unless and until HE catches up with you.
If you have to keep the dog AND you can, fairly easily, thats your way not to be a doormat but dump back his finances on HIM.
My brother is there now (3rd tour) and he pays his bills and that's that.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
