W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore-P2

[Snowman]

Andy,

Thanks for you great advice and perspective. Its getting hard to be patient or not pressure as my family and even her own mother wants me to call her bluff so to speak and put pressure on.

My wife is basically having her cake and eating it to with life. She is enjoying her single lifestyle of partying, drinking(which didn't do before), and planning trips all with a good use of credit cards that we are all sure of. Everyone asks me how she can afford this and she can't. Many have said she needs to grow up and I can't disagree.

I want to believe she will choose to come back from the aliens that abducted her but no one seems to think so.

I will not trap her in corners with questions but I will not go months more sitting in limbo waiting for a person that acts like a teenager and not deciding to address the problems that are not going away. That I will commit that I will not do.

I want to be supportive and open to things but not while she is playing games with me and choosing her new lifestyle over her family. She doesn't even respect our agreement on joint expenses and our joint account for them. Meanwhile she books a trip but use the account for a non-joint expense. This is getting old and the childish comments on FB about drinking, disrespect by going out with her friends on our anniversary after telling me she maybe wants to go to dinner with me and telling me she has to work late, and then posting about booking her half marathon trip when she has no money. The lying just never ends. Why should someone put up with this?