Hi Navy: Nice to see that things are going good for you.
Yea as you said, the toughest thing for you will be to make sure you not get on your wife's roller coaster. If you do, you will really regret it. Stay off and look at it has her suffering and loss. She is making this bad for herself and there's not much you can do about it. Just be the best you can. We have to believe that everyone one fine day will get up, look at themselves and see how miserable they have been and change.
good luck!
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