This past weekend W and I met face to face, for the first time since parting ways one week ago. After shooting the breeze about work & other generic topics, we got down to more important issues like our state of mentality living apart. Each of us admitted, she first, that this very first week was emotionally difficult and we obviously missed each other's daily presence in our respective lives. Unfortunately, when asked how long she might need to determine whether we'd get back together, she did not know for certain. We ended the evening with a hug & kiss and promised to do this again next week.
I've been doing okay on my own & obviously so has she... we survived, we met and we planned to meet up again. It does get lonely, and this is where GALing becomes important. A couple of questions to those out there (preferrably to those without children in the mix) who have been successful at navigating separation:
1) How do you avoid random negative thoughts, such as "I wonder if the OP is still in the picture"... this might happen when a text goes unanswered for an extended period of time, or Facebook posts between OP and W's best friend. 2) How often, and by what means, should we communicate in order to maintain and re-build a healthy relationship?
Essentially, I don't want to overdo it thus pushing her away. But I don't want to be aloof, either. Any tips?
Also, considering that we're now essentially dating, it has been nearly one full year since we've had intimate relations -her choice. I want to take this slow, to think with a clear head, and not do anything rash. Perhaps she does too. But when she admits that she misses me, it makes me wonder if I'm missing cues that she's looking for me to take charge. Even still, not sure if that's a wise idea, at least at this point.
