Retrouvaille means change

[TrentC]

I'm sorry that he's waffling on the Retrouvaille weekend; when he asked for the info and said he'd "think about it," I was concerned that he might be passive-aggressive and wait until the last minute to say he wasn't going to go.

I would get confirmation that he doesn't want to do it and contact the organizing couple so they can try to fill that slot. They may want to talk to him try to to convince him to go; if so, I'd let them do their work.

You don't have to talk to him about relationship stuff if you're not ready to do it. But if you DO talk to him, focus on listening to what he has to say. Try to validate his feelings without necessarily agreeing with the conclusions; something like "I understand that you feel like we can't work things out, but I believe that there are things we can do."