Getting Better??

[AntoniaB]

IB try to see if your anger or frustration is linked to how you feel physically. I've come to some pretty hardcore realizations over the past week or so that have shown me that for me, the two go hand in hand. If I feel physically strained, sore, tired, exhausted, sick, you name it, that's when I am the most emotionally messed up where I feel like it's just day one post-bomb and like my life is just "awful" while XH's is just "great" and he's dancing on the ashes of the marriage.

When I feel really good physically, I see things more clearly and see tons of progress for me and notice all the good things that came out of this tragedy.

I don't know which one comes first--I think the two things are so interrelated in me that it's a chicken and egg thing.

But maybe recognizing when you are feeling one or the other negative state, emotional vs. physical, and sort of "knowing" that the other is going to be right on its heels, will help, as you'll know that the two things feed one another and are temporary states.