Okay guys. Let me share with you A Day in the Life, in the DB world.

Yesterday, was a great day with my W...art museum, dinner out, great conversdation, shared deep stuff but lots of light heartedness too. My W is suggesting many other trips too so in and of themselves should be great times.

We get a call from her MIL who lives with us in the in-law apt, and she wants to talk to us. So we go see her. She says she wants to move out and needs help economically to do so, and to provide for herself in the future. One of her main reasons is that she couldn't bear to watch our family fracture and it has been killing her.

Now, know that she and my W are so much alike in retreating into their inner shells, not facing stuff head on, and then just exploding in a worldwind of emotion down the road. So, this would have to be handled with exquisite care.

Suprisingly my W takes the lead in suggesting that the issues that plagued her, her entire life are in many cases the same issues that plague her Mom. My W said that her facing of these issues and learning to overcome them are what is helping us in our M and we should apply the same awareness to this sitch. She told her Mom that her Mom isn't really up to date on where our M is, nor its affects on the kids. She said that we are really way much further along and in a much better place than we were before, that we are both fully aware of the others issues, progress, need for time and understand each other very well right now. I just sat back and thought "yeah baby, keep talking".

So then, the floodgates were open in terms of how with the things we all needed to learn about ourselves, and improve on, were preventing many key areas of understanding between us all, and how it affected our quality of life. My W was literally saying that, yeah we all freaked out when the bomb dropped but in the end have managed to get this far without the even larger damage we have seen in other fanily members sitches. I was thinking, "wow, you do see our strengths now, and that the original horror when the bomb dropped was truly many overreactions by all of us to something brand new and massively challenging".

My W said that we all have a choice here, we can certainly bloe this all up or we can sit back, communicate, listen, and come up with new answers. We c