Bklyn said - I cant believe you watched "crazy stupid love" with your W.
Rick said - I don't think either of us thought it through as a comparison to our own sitch when we chose to watch it. Quite the suprise as it unfolded though! And I was just trying to avoid another movie which I thought would be a downer for her.
Bklyn said - seem like you are in a good place - art galleries & castles, sounds like a date?
Rick said - We've been doing this sort of thing quite often and I must say they have been so fulfilling and enjoyable. It really does feel like when we were first together in the quality. The good news for me is that its now her suggesting these trips and none of it feels forced.
Brklyn - a couple of important points:
- this all feels hopeful but I am sticking to what I have learned from this and that no matter what, I am going to live with the newfound realizations that I obtained through this trail by fire, and I want to focus on others more so than before when I was always filtering everything through its affects on me. Kind of like saying if you focus on giving you will always feel fulfilled. Not saying that my emotions are still not up and down though
- if my W and I can even get to this point from where it was obscenely horrible when the bomb dropped, then the same can happen for you. Time, support of your S, and all the other DB principles will give your M that chance.
- my W could tell me tomorrow that she can't do this, this slow mo recovery, so believe me when I tell you that I am cautiously optimistic.
- when the DB principles say to stop giving your S more reasons to continue the walk away, this is so true. It was unbelievable true for me. You know the chapter about it takes one to tango? Yeah, it really is true as least as I can see it at this point.
