I'd be concerned about SD's comment too. Wow. I *hate* it when LBSs insist on blaming the WAS, sharing adult details about infidelity, using the other parent to teach a lesson in morality. It is soooo bad for the kids. You've done none of that, nor have you even seemed to have to bite your tongue much in terms of not bashing/blaming W when you talk to the kids. Really great to see you maintain such a loving position. But what to do when a child is feeling you abandoned the family? Wow. Tough one. Worth a question to your IC or FC. Great job, though, not going into a reactive mode to "clear things up."
Does your state offer mediation for custody/child support issues? I wonder if that would be useful in terms of working out new custody/child support issues that arise with XH.
Glad you are BOTH feeling that the separation is more real and have more space. Keep cutting the strings. They don't keep people close to us.
