IB what Snodderly wrote to you is very true. I wanted to post to you earlier but my internet went down [cutting my post to Everhopeful neatly in half!
It just takes a long time to get to feeling OK about things, and get your energy back. You can't just will it back, nice as that would be. You have been going through trauma.
And the bit about them looking terrible is so true, my xh nearly died during his crisis. At about the 3 year mark he got a near fatal illness that he is still needing treatment for. One that many people think is largely stress related. He was never really ill the whole time we were married. MLC takes its toll on them and on us.
