LAbug said - You are seeing much more improvement than I am,
Rick said - sometimes its hard to keep all of this in order in my mind, you know - detach, don't be attached to her actions, improve myself, learn from my mistakes, give my W the time and support she needs, take care of the kids practically and emotionally, live my daily life, handle my roller coaster emotions, GAL, think ahead to a new me and possibly a life w/o my W, the state of the world, etc., etc.
I finally just made it easier on myself and siad no matter what I'm going to learn from this and become a better H, I'm going to support my W and give her whatever time she needs no matter the outcome, I'm going to think in terms of how can I help others instead of how things affect me, in conversdations with others I will focus on seeking to understand (I was pretty much like this with others but really not with my W).
Somehow things are turning around. I think. Whatever the outcome I know how I'm going to use my time here on earth.
