Thanks, Rick. Her complaints were that I spent too much time at the office, did not contribute at home, was not a team player, did not help her get/protect "her time," did not improve our fixer upper home, did not earn enough money to minimize our financial stress, did not have a good attitude, and did not work hard enough at being a father. She was absolutely right on each account and seeing the list in writing makes me sick. Since the S, I have done 180s on each of the items: I have cut down my work hours, I have created lots of space for her to do things, I have chipped in financially a lot more, I have sought a new promotion at work that would mean a different (more positive) job, I have removed a lot of clutter from the home, I have improved my appearance, I have helped out with all things domestic, and I have improved my attitude. W told me over the weekend (more on this in a separate post to follow) that she could see that I have changed. I told her that everyday I make it my mission to re-enforce my new habits because I never want to go back to the man I was.
