How's it going TMC? I don't know what I can offer in terms of hope or inspiration other than the fact that you will come away from this experience a stronger more emotionally mature person than when you went in.

When we go through these experiences, we are forced to become "relationship experts" to some degree. If H comes back to the table, or if you find yourself with someone new down the line, the experience and what you've learned will give your future relationships a much better chance of success than someone who is holding onto romantic notions about "fairy tale love" or a marriage with a "soul mate" that requires no work.

One way or another you will find "happy", and the highs will be so much better by virtue of the memory of the lows. You are on the side of the righteous, you are trying to do what is best for your family. Keep doing the best job you can and feel good about that. You have a lot to be proud of.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015