WHG: Chasing that rabbit with the pocketwatch

[workinghardguy]

Thanks 2TP...

Man , from the mouth of babes!! I mean, really!

Tell me about it. One of my greatest fears has been that SD and SS would see this whole things as me walking away from them.

I feel 100% freer this morning than I have in many, many weeks. Last night my W spent the first night in the basement, and it didn't go great for her. She's terrified of spiders and she says she woke up frequently, convinced they were going to crawl in bed with her because she's warm. The air mattresses she was using apparently has a slow leak and deflated twice on her during the night. And we didn't realize that our old cat must have urinated on it at some point so despite a lot of Febreze it's still a bit stinky. W was pretty tired and grumpy this morning... but I slept really well

My W snores when she's sick or drinks, so lately she's been snoring everynight. I've been hesitant to reach out and touch her lest she thinks I'm "getting fresh" or something. But I slept pretty hard all night even without medication.

I believe DBing will be easier now. This morning we had some brief interactions about the kids. She did mention that last night her XH and her had a fight. She told him about the divorce. He wants her to move the kids to a town halfway between him and me. That he would be willing to watch SS and SD on the nights that my W has to work. Though when asked if we would watch all three kids the answer was no. Apparently they fought about child support too.

I did email the kids' teachers this morning as well. The letter was greatly reduced from the draft posted on here, thanks to all the feedback. It pretty much just said we were divorcing, we appreciate all the teachers do, the kids are staying in their schools, and if they have concerns to contact us.

Today is the first day I'm at work early in a long time. I feel like I have my mojo coming back. I didn't slink in, hide in my office, and wallow. I feel pretty good. As much as I wish we didn't have to tell the kids or do this to them... what's done is done now, and we'll just have to keep moving. Change is the only constant in life.