Trusting, Your xh is a conflict avoider, thus the running. Until he hits that brick wall very hard and comes up dazed w/stars floating around, he will not realize that happiness comes from within. Your comment about the trips and running may have given him something to think about, but only for a short period of time. He may now be looking for some other avenue to make him happy...only time will tell on that one.
For now, step away from his madness and enjoy the time you spend w/your family. I still believe that if you sit quietly, news will begin go drop in your lap.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
