Quote: I don't know the statistics of long term A's. Maybe JJ can let us know if he has any idea if the chances are less with them.
I'm not sure if there are really any statistics available, but here's one way to look at it.
During the first part of an A, there's lots of newness and excitment and adventure and daring, etc., etc.
Probably a lot like when your relationship together first started?
However, time goes on. Soon, there's the stinky-breath in the morning, the newness wears off and you start paying less attention to each other, warts start to appear, etc.
Probably a lot like when your relationship together first started to go sour?
Relationships take a LOT of nuturing, a lot of dedication, and a lot of knowledge on what you can do to make them last.
YOU are working on the skills and the knowledge, and have the dedication, to overcome the "time of the warts".
Do you think that the two of THEM together do??
Maybe sometimes the A might end too soon? There's still too many thoughts of the "goodness" of it all? I'm not sure, but it might be a possibility.
No "statistics", but a different way to look at it that might help you to remain hopeful in your situation.
JJ
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