Ok, while still struggling with figuring out dbing within my kid framework let me through another one out there for some help (though any help with kids would help also). Here's my next hurtle.
We're leaving for 5 days on trip (flying), just the two of us. It has to both with business and pleasure and has been the works since before she dropped the bomb. Throughout everything she hasn't wavered on me going. This has been surprising especially the day she reminded me to buy the tickets was just hours after one our worst fights to date. I feel like this is another opportunity for me to do some real DBing, but I don't have my head wrapped around it yet. How to act, be, etc. One thing I did do was set up a little side trip for me and a buddy on one of the free days we have. It came up yesterday when she mentioned some stuff we'll have to do that day. I said I think it won't take too long because I'm going to the coast with my friend (we'll also be staying with him some of those days). She seemed a bit dejected. I don't know if I should have ignored that or not but I didn't. I said I figured she had already made plans with her friends in the area. She said she hadn't but figured she could. I didn't ask her to go with us and she didn't ask if she could. So I think that is all pretty good. Just not sure how to be on this trip during our time together.
