have you had your cry and vent? and then pick yourself up and refocus! 1 thing i have been trying to sort out in my head is that yes there have been some great moments in my marriage but that marriage in now gone. and i don't want it back because obviously it lead me to here!!! i want a new marriage.. a stronger one!
you asked a question about child care and i thought i would post here because you might get the resopnse quicker..
my husband sleeps on a friend's couch during the weekdays. since he obviously wouldn't be able to take the kids overnight there, i compromised and said i would leave on the weekends. so H comes home on fridays (usually by the time S is home from school). we have dinner as a family and then sometimes i stay until they have been tucked in bed but depends on whether i have made plans. i come home usually monday afternoons and then pick up son from school. we have dinner w/ the kids again on mondays and then H leaves after kids have gone to bed.
i agreed to this arrangement because H has weekends off. my work sked is all over the place because i work around H and kid's sked. also, it seemed like a better idea to keep the kids environment stable during these unstable times.
is this working? i'm not sure. it's hard to leave the kids. when i'm away, if i don't have plans.. i spend an awful lot of time reading DB posts!
take care!
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
