Thanks, guys. I was in a pretty crummy place before, but now I feel much better about myself. I also appreciate hearing some female perspective on this, given that it sheds a lot of light on what might be going on in my W's head.
Re. the $10: Sorry, 25. Unfortunately, I think that I plain old messed up on this one -- just going to have to take it into stride and do whatever damage control I can. Given that she still hasn't replied to my e-mails yet, I think that she's probably doing what I ought to do -- forgetting about it and moving on.
Re. Meetup.com: It's settled. I'll start looking for some things to do this week. It'll be a little scary, but I'm more comfortable socializing now than I've ever been. It's something that I really, really want to do a lot more of.
Re. boundaries: I like your ideas on this, 25. I will admit that I really don't talk to my W anymore because of my boundaries. Oh, believe me, she has tried to inject herself into my life as "friends" many times, but I have yet to see her do so as somebody with respect for me. Still, if sex ever does come up like that, I'll be more prepared than I was to put up some good old-fashioned boundaries.
Re. being a better man/husband: I think I am, too, and I believe that this is only the beginning. So sad that it took something so devastating to instill this change within me, but I guess that's sometimes how the greatest change is brought about.
Thanks again for the advice and support, everybody! Will keep you all posted!
