WHG: Chasing that rabbit with the pocketwatch

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WHG - I really feel for you. I agree this is one of THE most difficult things to have to do, (i.e. subject your children to unnecessary pain and suffering).

"Kids went to bed without real issues. SS hung with me a lot tonight... he rode to the hotel with me (we took separate cars so W could go shopping after dinner). Rode to dinner with me. And sat at the table with me after SD and S went to bed and we just talked about stuff. That doesn't usually happen, but I just stayed present for whatever he needed from me."

As I may have mentioned in a previous post to you, your kids are going to draw closer to you. Do your best to be there for them, all of them.

"SD: Mom, are you going to date guys now?
W: Why do you ask? How would that make you feel if I did?
SD: Well... it's just that now you've left the second husband behind you... I'm just wondering if you really need to go for a third.
W: No... I'm not planning on dating anyone, any time soon.
W: Would it bother you if [me] started dating a woman?
SD: Not really.
W: Why not?
SD: Because he didn't leave you behind."

Man , from the mouth of babes!! I mean, really!

So, now it will be interesting to see how things start to work out with your W moving to the basement. I really think she needs that space in order to get her thoughts and feelings together.

So, good luck and hang in there, WHG. We're all pulling for you. Really!